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Today as I was going up the stairs exiting the subway when I got home from work, a guy touched my ass. It really upset me. It fucking sucked. I felt really powerless - like, it wasn't a pinch or anything so i felt like he could claim it was an accident - cos it was more like he brushed against me. Except that he had just paused on the landing, and I thought he was just waiting for someone or adjusting his shoe or whatever, so I went in front of him and he immediately started up right behind me. So then afterwards I felt stupid, too, like I shouldn't have let him do that.
I just stopped short and made him go in front of me the rest of the way, but I wish I'd done something else. His pants were, like, around his knees so I thought about just hooking a belt loop and pulling them down. But I thought that would just cause more trouble than it was worth. I should have said something, though. I wish my first reaction had been to shout something.
As I said in an IM conversation earlier, it's so sickening. I was wearing a skirt, therefore he thinks he has the right to touch me. I wasn't in any danger, there were lots of people around, so it's not like I really felt threatened, and I certainly wasn't physically injured. It just left me feeling vulnerable and used for his creepy desires and disgusted and just shaken.
::sigh:: Thanks for trying to ruin my week, fucker.
Hopefully I'll bounce back, I wanna do something fun on Sunday. 80s pop songs were very helpful, as was the magnificence of Nikola Tesla. I will probably write more about him in the near future. He's like Shackleton if Shackleton was evil and a mad scientist who invented electromagnetism. By which I mean he's a historical figure who is larger than life and stranger than fiction.
Ugh. Shit. I hate the feeling that this guy thought my body was his to touch. Maybe it doesn't seem like a big deal, or maybe people have this happen to them all the time (I hope not) but it doesn't happen to me often and it sucks. And shouldn't happen.
I just stopped short and made him go in front of me the rest of the way, but I wish I'd done something else. His pants were, like, around his knees so I thought about just hooking a belt loop and pulling them down. But I thought that would just cause more trouble than it was worth. I should have said something, though. I wish my first reaction had been to shout something.
As I said in an IM conversation earlier, it's so sickening. I was wearing a skirt, therefore he thinks he has the right to touch me. I wasn't in any danger, there were lots of people around, so it's not like I really felt threatened, and I certainly wasn't physically injured. It just left me feeling vulnerable and used for his creepy desires and disgusted and just shaken.
::sigh:: Thanks for trying to ruin my week, fucker.
Hopefully I'll bounce back, I wanna do something fun on Sunday. 80s pop songs were very helpful, as was the magnificence of Nikola Tesla. I will probably write more about him in the near future. He's like Shackleton if Shackleton was evil and a mad scientist who invented electromagnetism. By which I mean he's a historical figure who is larger than life and stranger than fiction.
Ugh. Shit. I hate the feeling that this guy thought my body was his to touch. Maybe it doesn't seem like a big deal, or maybe people have this happen to them all the time (I hope not) but it doesn't happen to me often and it sucks. And shouldn't happen.
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Date: 2009-04-06 02:40 pm (UTC)And point b does make me feel better (I was already calling him a filthy pervert in my head, though!) - I know that not all guys are like that, but it's nice to hear it confirmed. :) Although I did recently quote you to someone who saying maybe the guy in ONE OK ROCK who groped someone, it was just a fluke and it's deserving of punishment but also a second chance cos he was young and drunk. And I do think it's a little more serious than that, because as you say, not all guys would do this, even given the opportunity.
(Various parts of my body, most notably another teenager suddenly groping my breast when I was twelve.)
Oh my god, that sounds like it would be terrifying. :(