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Not as emo as it sounds, really!
May. 2nd, 2008 11:40 pmOK, so I didn't want to do this sort of thing because it felt like a desperate plea for attention, but now that I really know that it's definitely not a desperate plea for attention, I'm going to say this.
If you've never commented on my posts, or maybe commented on one or two fandom things; if I've made a good effort to reach out to you and become your friend (actual friend, not just on the list) and you've never made any effort towards me, or just the barest effort of responding and no actual action; if we've never really communicated about anything. . . I'm considering removing you from my friends list.
People that just aren't that active, or people that I haven't made an effort to talk to are actually more likely to stay. It's when people post a lot that I don't feel like are anything like a friend that I get annoyed. And if it's people that I feel I've made a concerted effort to befriend and feel like that effort hasn't been reciprocated, it can actually feel a little bad when I see your entries. So I'm thinking I should probably not be feeling that way when I read my friends list
I might not do an unfriending, it depends on how much things annoy me and how I feel about staying in the JE fandom, but I definitely think about it fairly regularly! The other problem, in addition to the extent to which I want to maintain any ties in fandom, is that I do like an active friends list, I like to have something to read. So there's definitely mixed feelings.
But yeah, I'm posting this just in case anyone does actually care. If someone thinks this applies to them and wants to say "I really like reading your entries, I just never know what to say," or even "I love getting your comments, I just can never check my friends list," or any form of "I actually like you," please let me know. Or if you read this and think "Ahh, that's me and yeah, we're just not going to hit it off!" you can let me know that as well. Really. I think there's some people that I've just turned out to be incompatible with and that's not a big deal and it doesn't mean I hate you or will be angry with you or will form some weird faction against you if wank erupts. I think pretty much most of the people I've friended are good people - they're just not necessarily my friends and I want them to be. And I care less about the factors in the above paragraph these days, so it's becoming increasingly likely that I will do an unfriending. And this is your warning - I'm probably not going to talk to people individually, so if you find yourself unfriended, this is why and hopefully no hard feelings, and if you do have hard feelings, leave me a comment or send me a message and I can explain myself more specifically or whatever. But if you'd care that much I guess you should comment here?
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irrelevantheart. Who are you? Where did you come from? XD I don't remember you in any way.
Anyway. I need to meet some new people.
( I know this is long already but here's a little cut. . .! )
If you've never commented on my posts, or maybe commented on one or two fandom things; if I've made a good effort to reach out to you and become your friend (actual friend, not just on the list) and you've never made any effort towards me, or just the barest effort of responding and no actual action; if we've never really communicated about anything. . . I'm considering removing you from my friends list.
People that just aren't that active, or people that I haven't made an effort to talk to are actually more likely to stay. It's when people post a lot that I don't feel like are anything like a friend that I get annoyed. And if it's people that I feel I've made a concerted effort to befriend and feel like that effort hasn't been reciprocated, it can actually feel a little bad when I see your entries. So I'm thinking I should probably not be feeling that way when I read my friends list
I might not do an unfriending, it depends on how much things annoy me and how I feel about staying in the JE fandom, but I definitely think about it fairly regularly! The other problem, in addition to the extent to which I want to maintain any ties in fandom, is that I do like an active friends list, I like to have something to read. So there's definitely mixed feelings.
But yeah, I'm posting this just in case anyone does actually care. If someone thinks this applies to them and wants to say "I really like reading your entries, I just never know what to say," or even "I love getting your comments, I just can never check my friends list," or any form of "I actually like you," please let me know. Or if you read this and think "Ahh, that's me and yeah, we're just not going to hit it off!" you can let me know that as well. Really. I think there's some people that I've just turned out to be incompatible with and that's not a big deal and it doesn't mean I hate you or will be angry with you or will form some weird faction against you if wank erupts. I think pretty much most of the people I've friended are good people - they're just not necessarily my friends and I want them to be. And I care less about the factors in the above paragraph these days, so it's becoming increasingly likely that I will do an unfriending. And this is your warning - I'm probably not going to talk to people individually, so if you find yourself unfriended, this is why and hopefully no hard feelings, and if you do have hard feelings, leave me a comment or send me a message and I can explain myself more specifically or whatever. But if you'd care that much I guess you should comment here?
Also.
irrelevantheart. Who are you? Where did you come from? XD I don't remember you in any way.Anyway. I need to meet some new people.
( I know this is long already but here's a little cut. . .! )
